Honesty Is Important
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The first few days and weeks after a break up can be agony. So many feelings of loss and longing come and go in heart wrenching waves. You miss your ex so badly that only one thought keeps running through your tortured mind: How can I get my ex back?
One thing is for certain, it’s going to require you to use a lot of common sense, maturity and dignity. In other words, leave game playing and manipulations to those who are less wise. Your goal is to show the one you love that what you had is still worth saving; and that you are still worth knowing and loving. Strategies that revolve around deception and manipulation are not the way to win over an already bruised heart.
A prime example of this type of devious ploy, is pretending you’ve moved on, when you really have not. The desired effect, of course, is to make your ex jealous enough to want to give it another try with you. It rarely works however. In the first place, it’s dishonest. In the second place, it can backfire with devastating results. The notion that you have moved seamlessly from your ex, right into another affair, is only going to make your true love wonder if you ever really cared at all. Do you really want to have your feelings called into question when you’re trying to win this person back? No doubt, your ex may actually feel betrayed and mislead. The level of trust you had will plummet and once lost, will be nearly impossible to gain back.
Sometimes there has been a betrayal, which can lead to feelings of anger and resentment on your part. Even so, if you’re willing to consider how you can rekindle the love of your ex you’re obviously willing to move past the problem and mend the relationship to make it stronger than ever. Consequently, it’s important to avoid angry outbursts and accusations. Nobody wants to try again with someone who appears unable to forgive past indiscretions and move forward. Forgiveness is imperative if you’re going to pursue a second go around. Otherwise, you’re just setting yourself up for another failure which defeats the purpose if getting back together in the first place.
Another important point to remember is that relationship failure is almost never the fault of just one person. Ask yourself some important, soul-searching questions. Did I alienate my ex with constant nagging or pressure to change? Was I diplomatic and fair when disagreements arose? Can I make the changes I need to, in order to be more appealing to my ex and win her/him back? It’s painful to be honest with ourselves. Admitting fault isn’t easy for most of us to do. But unless we change the way we dealt with one another before, to more constructive and positive methods, we’re doomed to failure yet again.
What should you do to rekindle the relationship? Getting back together means being thoughtful, forgiving, considerate and kind. Treat your ex with the same tenderness and understanding you would want for yourself. Show your ex what you have learned about yourself and your relationship in his/her absence, and that you have grown. If you use common sense, compassion, patience and forgiveness you may find that the love of your ex can be rekindled. With a little care, and some small personal changes your love may at last, be secured forever.
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